Feeling Betrayed: Part 2 – How to Heal a Broken Heart

Leaking Grieving Heart,Drawing by Ingrid Cryns

Leaking Grieving Heart,
Drawing by Ingrid Cryns

Following on from my previous post – Feeling Betrayed: The Experience of Deception, in this blog we’ll talk about how to heal a broken heart.

The way to heal a betrayal experience is to first give yourself permission to fully feel your rage. Take the time to physically express it through your body with strong physical movement of your arms or legs or both.  Swinging a bat against a bed, swinging a stick against a concrete wall or a large tree in a forest, kicking a punching bag or stomping your feet up and down on the earth are all healthy ways to move the energy of anger through your body.  And, the more you can express your rage with your voice as well, such as through screaming or growling, the better as it will help move the energy through your body and out of your system.

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Feeling Betrayed: Part 1 – The Experience of Deception

Broken Betrayed Heart,
Drawing by Ingrid Cryns

I met a woman on the weekend and I was moved by how angry and intense she sounded.  I listened to her story until I saw why her soul was expressing its outrage.  She had been following her dream and after 4 years, now she is almost bankrupt.  She had experienced deception and felt deeply betrayed, and I saw how her heart was achingly breaking.  She had dreamed of becoming a farmer with no background or experience in it. She cashed out her city life and moved into the rural country to make a go of it.  In the end, she realized how completely unsupported the farmers are by the government and how many of them, including herself, are working so, so hard and are still losing money. Many of them are living on the poverty line.

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A New Year: A Sacred Intention Ritual

sacred rituals with candlesStarting a new year, we all want to feel fresh and let go of what might be holding us back.  A new year marks a time to rekindle the desire for new beginnings and set new intentions… perhaps with a sacred ritual.  The winter solstice of Dec 22 marking the shortest day of the year, also marks a kind of death of a cycle; an ending that sets the stage for a rebirth, or where seeds can be planted to grow into new directions.

I like to set an intention for my own personal goals and inspirations at these magical times of year when the solstice or equinox marks a shift in the earth energies.  Although it is more powerful to do this on the energetic surge of the exact day and times of these calendar dates, a day before or after also holds the energy well too.  And, when you miss that, do this whenever it feels right for you. It is always a powerful way of marking and holding a new intention or direction.  It helps significantly to change an old habit if you can mark a new positive intention in a simple ritual.  I find myself doing these a few times a year.  Here is what I like to do and I thought it might be inspiring for some of you to try as well:

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Top 3 Ways to Receive Love During the Christmas Holidays

bigstock-Happy-family-with-shopping-bag-52055461The Christmas Holidays are a time focused on finding the time to buy gifts, arranging the dates of how to get together for family meals and taking some down time to relax.  For many of us, taking in and actually receiving the gift of love can sometimes get lost in the busy-ness of the season.  Here are the top 3 ways that you can consciously focus on to expand your capacity to receive love each day.  This is my holiday gift to you; to offer you a growing heart vocabulary to receive the many facets of love, a day;

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15 Tools to Living Wisely in These Crazy Times! – Part 1

Soul River of Life Pencil Crayon Drawing by Ingrid Cryns

Soul River of Life
Pencil Crayon Drawing by Ingrid Cryns

To live ‘wisely’ in these times, it is important to develop tools that help to ground and centre you for the many dramatic shifts that are occurring around us on a variety of levels – including emotional/spiritual/energetic as well as physical illnesses. To be ‘Resilient’ to these changes, it requires a body and mind to be strongly grounded in this reality while remaining open & flexible to be able to quickly shift or change as required.  Resiliency work is about building up your healing systems and healing team to assist you through difficult times on many different levels. In this 2 part blog series, I will give you 15 tools to help you navigate these crazy times.

Below is what represents the breadth and depth of holistic and healing modalities that I have personally explored and continue to highly recommend. I often still use many of them myself at different times on my own soul work journey. Some of these methods are also regularly included in my webinars, presentations, workshops or group retreats. Here are the first 7 tools to support your soul to grow with courage and clarity;

  1. To begin with, please start with signing up for my Newsletter on the right side bar.  This will not only keep you in touch with many current trends in how to live more wisely,  but you will receive a 7 page download of a very comprehensive collection of 15 other tips to help manage overwhelm and high anxiety called; Calming Chaos: 15 Soul Secrets for Holding Balance in These Crazy Times. (If you are already on my email list and do not have this download, just send me an email and I will send it to you then).
  2. Donna Eden’s Energy medicine – is a really great body of work that helps to balance the right and left sides of your body and energy system as well as keep you in a good daily balance and increase resiliency.  I highly recommend to learn how to do the 5 – 10 minute daily routine
    1. 5 minute routine –  Video
    2. triple warmer calming technique – Method 1 & Method 2
    3. Basic Energy Medicine Kit
  3. EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique – is such a handy self-help tool to immediately shift an intense emotional reaction to something and to help change old habits
    1. Basic Protocol 1Basic Protocol 2 & Basic Protocol 3
    2. Free Google ebook by EFT Founder, Gary Graig – The EFT Manual
    3. for anxiety – Free download – Audio & script
    4. for insomnia – Basic Instructions & Good General Article
  4. Meditation – there are a  very large variety of methods;
    1. Tibetan buddhist forms, teaching heart centered & present moment living;
      1. Shambhala.org
    2. Zen meditation forms.  The following is a more modern influence with integrates western psychology awareness work with voice dialog and Zen Buddhist consciousness work toward enlightenment!
      1. Big Heart, Big Mind – bigmind.org
    3. Hindu meditation forms
      1. Sahaja Yoga – great free online video courses are very helpful here
    4. Shamanic journeying forms
    5. Guided audio and/or visual meditation forms
    6. Walking meditation
    7. Body felt sense tracking
  5. YOGA, YOGA, YOGA – I can’t say enough about the importance of stretching and strengthening the body slowly and carefully through the various forms of yoga.  My personal favourites are Moshka & Hatha forms, but there are many others that are also very good
  6. Tong Ren – is a fascinating long distance healing method
  7. Access Consciousness – wonderful consciousness clearing and inspiring work

I can support you to find ways to get in touch with your un-conscious or shadow self through symbols and dream work interpretation or unique emotional art drawings.  And I can help you to heal the pain of your deeper soul wounds that will create a greater congruency of your body and mind through body psychotherapy. Click on the green contact tab below to the right and let’s begin to heal your unique soul story together!

The Soul – Essence of Life Force Within Us

Masculine Feminine SOUL - Drawing by Ingrid Cryns

Masculine Feminine SOUL
Drawing by Ingrid Cryns

Dictionaries often define the soul as an intangible quality within, an essence of your life force energy. It is a highly critical component of your being, without which, if not properly nourished, understood, or responded to, can create mental or physical illness and possibly even death.

In 1907 in an effort to prove a material existence of the soul in the body, Dr. Duncan MacDougall of Haverville, Massachusetts, USA, did an experiment and weighed 6 patients during the various stages of their terminal illness.  He weighed each body before, during & immediately at the point of death.  He reported a measurement about three quarter’s of an ounce or 21.3 grams, as the consciousness, the soul essence, left the body.

The soul has a direct inter-relationship with thought, words, will, emotions, feelings and action.  We can’t see it or touch it as by its very nature, it is invisible.  It is the glue that holds us together and also fuels the life force energy of our aliveness & vitality.   It is reflected in our being as an emotional, animating & passionate aspect.   Music, art, poetry all capture the emotional, right brain, more feminine aspect AND our soul nature.

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What Is Bioenergetics or Somatic Relational Psychotherapy?

Reich BookWelcome to Building Soul! You might be asking… Soma – what?  You may recall this term from the name of the drink that was used to put masses of people into a subdued and controllable altered state in the book, “Brave New World ” (1931) by Aldous Huxley.

The actual origins of the term ‘soma’ is from the Greek or Latin root of the word ‘body’.  Bioenergetics is a somatically based psychotherapy is a form of therapy that works with helping you connect your conscious awareness to the physiological feelings states that are held in your body, hence the phrase somatic relational psychotherapy.  This is an incredibly fascinating body of work (no pun intended!) that has in fact also been developing since the 1930’s, when Huxley’s book came out!

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