Healing a negative mother wound inside of you is inter-related to the healing that our entire planet needs! Our earth is calling us now, to come back and listen to her needs; which is also all of our needs, collectively. Our survival is deeply inter-connected as a species to Her. She is out of balance and is shifting with enormous physical changes and more erratic weather patterns. She is asking us to change ourselves in how we relate to her. Are we able to change and respond in time as a collective community?
In the western world, many women were told by Dr Spock in the 60’s to not pick up their child when s/he was crying. This created a society of adults who learned to shut down their feelings and not respond with love to their own personal needs. We have evolved collectively as a culture with schizoid tendencies to ignore the body’s needs and feelings and to be highly narcissistic. Many of us have learned to not respond in true empathy to another’s needs. Large corporations, in fact, essentially operate with this model and it appears that many country governments do as well!
The art of ‘Deep Resilience’ is knowing what you can do and what you need to do on a daily basis to hold your own stability and grounded balance. It allows you to flourish and thrive in today’s challenging environment. It enables you to gracefully spring back from anything! It truly is harder to feel calm and grounded these days. This is because the ground is actually losing its own magnetic charge! This is due to the toxicity of electromagnetic pollution through cell phone and internet tower frequency waves.
Have you noticed an unusual intensity surrounding you these days? Do you feel more anxious, overwhelmed and tired a lot of them time? Find it difficult to hold your focus or keep on top of your ever lengthening to do lists? Well you aren’t the only one. Our world is changing faster than most of us can keep up with. Deep Resilience is a way of responding to these changes by changing how we think and live. Deep Resilience is how we can bounce back quickly, with change from a deeper place of grounded stability. Thriving is about going beyond just surviving. We are living in a time of great chaos and it can feel like you are going crazy, just trying to keep up with a sane pace in life. Finding balance in this whirlwind of unknown futures is an art!
Have you been in talk therapy for several years, going over the same stories over and over again and not feeling like you are really changing? You might be ready for a deeper level of healing that goes beyond mind psychotherapy or solo consciousness work. When the body, energy and the magical world of spiritual healing is included, dramatic shifts in reality and core healing can truly occur.
Talk therapy can be very helpful in allowing you to understand yourself and to integrate what is unconscious, conscious. The more we can be aware of what might be our hidden motives or deep wounds underneath a surface emotion or even a somatized body symptom, the more we are likely to be able to address the core of an issue to heal it permanently.
4. Commit to Removing the Blocks to Receiving Love:
The nature of love is often about how it gets wounded. A wounded heart can also be a heart that slowly becomes blocked in its ability to receive love. Blocks to the heart, also can block receiving a great vitality and aliveness in how you experience life! And, a blocked heart can create a wall in relationships with friends, work or life in general that reduces your capacity to fully be all that you might desire or dream of. Many people with a wound in their heart will give up in hopelessness or despair that it will never change. But, there is always a choice. You can choose to make a commitment to exploring what might be possible to open up your heart again. What books are there that you can discover that talks about healing a broken heart? What online resources can you find that can open up a new doorway to how to mend the gaping hole of loss in your heart? What professionals can you connect with that can carefully guide you in a safe way to listen to what your heart needs to repair itself? There are many paths and choices to heal the heart. Make a commitment today to begin to choose one of them.
Love is often what we want from others; to feel desired, wanted, without judgment, unconditionally. The thing is, to get that love, it absolutely starts with how much you love and want yourself! If you don’t love yourself first, you cannot attract anything less than what you have within. When you can cultivate and develop the love you have for all of you, inside your own heart, you will resonate that quality of love and like a magnet, attract the same from others. In this 3 part series, we’ll explore 9 ways to nurture love within yourself. Here are 3 techniques to help you amplify and begin to nurture what is in your heart and what you might need to do to grow your own love for yourself.
This is Part 2 of a 2 series blog on Facing my Fears Alone in the Wilderness; Click here for Part 1.
Reflecting over those 2 days alone, I felt a beginning peace and contentedness grow within. Although my journey to get there was fraught with all sorts of mistakes, fumbles, wrong paths taken, I eventually did find my way to a new ‘home’ base. I was persistent, I never gave up, and I faced the unknown with ‘fearlessness’. Essentially, I felt lots of fear, yet I kept on going, regardless.
Initially in my journey to find myself, who I am, or why I even exist, I often went up north to Algonquin Park, or the Frost Centre area (Haliburton, Dorset, Minden in Ontario) and did many solo trips. I consciously did this to meet my great fear of being ALONE.
On my very first trip, I was so bold, naive and rash that I didn’t even know how to carry the canoe all by myself. I found myself at the first portage and suddenly realized how I forgot to figure this out and learn it before I left. After my initial panic & despair, I relaxed a little, slowed down, took some deep breaths and looked carefully at the canoe. I then lifted it up at one end, jimmied myself up to the middle underneath it, put it on top of my head, turned around until I was facing out and then lifted it up onto my shoulders. I did it! Then I started walking on the portage. Except that I forgot to check the map and somehow there was a fork in the road – AND I TOOK THE WRONG FORK!
Understanding the need for healthy boundaries helps to establish our separateness from others. And in this awareness that “I am separate from you”, I have a boundary. Having a boundary allows a choice. This produces healthy relationships. Boundaries help you be conscious of what you need, what works for you and what clearly doesn’t. We all have basic human needs for love, connection, touch, to feel supported, and so on, as well as knowing ourselves as separate individuals. If we are not connected to what we do need, we are unable to ask for it or know when we are not getting our needs met. This denial or blindness creates expectations that are not voiced, so they are not able to be addressed in a relationship.