Awakening to mankind’s responsibility to heal the inner wound of our collective wounded masculine, also heals the wounded relationship with the feminine. As we all learn how to relate differently in a way that is more inclusive, this paradoxically allows more individuality to co-exist. With a commitment to our personal growth, together we are co-creating the new emerging masculine.
Like the need for bio-diversity to strengthen the resilience of inter-dependent micro systems on the planet, our collective need to learn how to operate in a way that includes an ability to respond and support all of our needs – men, women, children, elders, plants, animals, water and more! We can ultimately also shift our profound and primary relationship with the Earth.
Jungian Analyst and Author, Robert Bly, has stated in his work long ago that the archetypal image of the powerful, old masculine, King is dead – in our collective psyche! An archetype is a way of describing our universal need of a particular aspect of within our psychological development of how we think, feel and behave. The King archetype is one of power, strength and how to fight for our integrity and needs.
Sadly, for many of us, the positive King archetype was killed off in our early childhood from abandonment or abuse, dysfunctional or distorted men and narcissistic to psychopathic fathers. Our idea of what a strong powerful father should be, is actually one that is deeply wounded, weak or insecure, compensating in some form for a deep disconnection from within our psyches. The old masculine lacks a healthy integration with the feminine, an intuitive nature, an inclusive and supportive relationship with others and a way of being that is in harmonious balance with how we live together on this Earth.
Transforming the Negative Mother into the Divine and Earth Mothers heals not only our inner world, but also heals the planet at the same time! When you can learn and integrate the many positive Mother archetypes through a new bonding relationship with a therapist, you can begin to develop fresh neural network pathways of consistent, loving connections. As you learn how to grow a consistent loving connection within yourself, you develop a capacity to unconditionally love yourself – no matter what happens. This is what slowly heals and transforms the negative mother within. It also changes how you will relate to others and as we all heal and transform our primary relationship with our inner mothers, the earth’s balance will also change and heal.
Practicing meditative prayers to more spiritual, positive mother archetypes can also begin to replace the negative mother imprint within you.
Positive Mother Archetypes, are the loving nurturer, the caregiver, the wise grandmother, or the mother martyr. They are found also in the positive side of Isis from Egypt, the Madonna , Mother Mary of Christianity, Kwan Yin from China, Lakshmi from China, and of course, Mother Earth or Gaia, as some call her.
Healing a negative mother wound inside of you is inter-related to the healing that our entire planet needs! Our earth is calling us now, to come back and listen to her needs; which is also all of our needs, collectively. Our survival is deeply inter-connected as a species to Her. She is out of balance and is shifting with enormous physical changes and more erratic weather patterns. She is asking us to change ourselves in how we relate to her. Are we able to change and respond in time as a collective community?
In the western world, many women were told by Dr Spock in the 60’s to not pick up their child when s/he was crying. This created a society of adults who learned to shut down their feelings and not respond with love to their own personal needs. We have evolved collectively as a culture with schizoid tendencies to ignore the body’s needs and feelings and to be highly narcissistic. Many of us have learned to not respond in true empathy to another’s needs. Large corporations, in fact, essentially operate with this model and it appears that many country governments do as well!
The Negative Mother archetype is represented in our culture often as the archetypes of the Hag, the Witch, the Evil Sorceress, the Seductress, the Black Madonna, the Prostitute and the Raging Bitch!
An archetype is defined as a form of consciousness that is understood as a more collective aspect of awareness. Often these darker feminine archetypal forms include an awareness of the intuitive side of the feminine as well – that was feared and often attacked in the past –for example, witches were burned for their deeper wisdom. Or Christian religions tried to blame Eve for the first Sin in seducing Adam, and sexuality was denigrated as a negative desire – and the Prostitute was born. Or Islamic religions hid women’s faces and bodies, because men could not be blamed for their sexual desire to want women, so women have to hide their sensual feminine nature. The Hag is seen as old, harshly critical and cranky, split off from the power of her deeper wisdom, no longer being valued.
Are you more connected to the negativity of your mother, then your undying love for her? Do you resent her or feel guilty all the time about her? Do you try to not to be hurt by her critical comments about you – or do you just plain try to avoid her? Maybe you’ve moved to another city or country, to unconsciously place a geographic distance away from her?
These are some of the components of the Negative Mother that you may wonder, how can you change this – because you can’t change your mother! The Negative or Dark Mother can evolve, with awareness and a bit of work into a more satisfying and deeply fulfilling relationship, You can learn how to transmute your needs to the Divine Mother and the Earth Mother. These two archetypes, spiritual or more earthly entities, have a great bountiful abundance of love and gifts to offer that can heal you and re-organize how you experience yourself and create your chosen reality. If you are open to changing yourself, the possibilities of deeper connections with the positive, healing forms of Mothers are endless.
The art of ‘Deep Resilience’ is knowing what you can do and what you need to do on a daily basis to hold your own stability and grounded balance. It allows you to flourish and thrive in today’s challenging environment. It enables you to gracefully spring back from anything! It truly is harder to feel calm and grounded these days. This is because the ground is actually losing its own magnetic charge! This is due to the toxicity of electromagnetic pollution through cell phone and internet tower frequency waves.
Have you noticed an unusual intensity surrounding you these days? Do you feel more anxious, overwhelmed and tired a lot of them time? Find it difficult to hold your focus or keep on top of your ever lengthening to do lists? Well you aren’t the only one. Our world is changing faster than most of us can keep up with. Deep Resilience is a way of responding to these changes by changing how we think and live. Deep Resilience is how we can bounce back quickly, with change from a deeper place of grounded stability. Thriving is about going beyond just surviving. We are living in a time of great chaos and it can feel like you are going crazy, just trying to keep up with a sane pace in life. Finding balance in this whirlwind of unknown futures is an art!
The earth, Gaia, is an alive, breathing organism. She is currently going through incredible changes. Physical shifts from the north to south pole axis, to earthquakes, new volcano rumblings, hurricanes and incredible weather changes. The ice cap poles are melting and our sense of stability and reality is changing faster than we know how to deal with. Gaia is awakening into a new level of awareness and she is calling all of us to move with her. Continue reading →
How do your grow your intimate love relationship to be more resilient to the many shifts, changes or unexpected traumas that life offers us? Here are the top 3 tips to hold within your hearts so that you can find more love for each other, as you may find yourselves possibly drifting apart; Continue reading →