Jungian Analyst and Author, Robert Bly, has stated in his work long ago that the archetypal image of the powerful, old masculine, King is dead – in our collective psyche! An archetype is a way of describing our universal need of a particular aspect of within our psychological development of how we think, feel and behave. The King archetype is one of power, strength and how to fight for our integrity and needs.
Sadly, for many of us, the positive King archetype was killed off in our early childhood from abandonment or abuse, dysfunctional or distorted men and narcissistic to psychopathic fathers. Our idea of what a strong powerful father should be, is actually one that is deeply wounded, weak or insecure, compensating in some form for a deep disconnection from within our psyches. The old masculine lacks a healthy integration with the feminine, an intuitive nature, an inclusive and supportive relationship with others and a way of being that is in harmonious balance with how we live together on this Earth.
In celebration of Father’s Day this month as well as the sun energy of Summer Solstice yesterday, I have been thinking about the men in my life. It is a time to honour the healthy masculine in all of us. I have begun to notice a shift in the world and have caught glimpses of a new masculine emerging and growing amongst us.
For years, I have seen many distorted forms of the masculine. One form is through dysfunctional corporation structures that continue to operate in an increasing chaos that doesn’t make a lot of sense any more. Organizations like FIFA world soccer is falling apart due to the financial greed of its leaders, or the Canadian Armed Forces, who are struggling with its internal sexual discrimination, harassment or abuse issues.
I’ve heard many stories in the news or from my clients of corporate organizations, school boards and police forces full of corruption, mismanagement or abuse within its power structures. The financial power structures of many countries seem to be falling apart as well. Let alone, all the men who have emotionally or physically abused their children, who are mentally ill-at-ease, or who have abandoned or neglected their spouses or kids. It’s really a mess out there and much of it is based on a controlling, competitive, male dominated power or hierarchical structure that is supposed to support its individual members, but actually doesn’t seem to at all.
Not only is the masculine aspect in men only, it exists as well in the inner psyche of women too. Our left brain and right side of the body holds our masculine qualities. These qualities can appear in our psyche as distinct aspects such as:
The Negative Mother archetype is represented in our culture often as the archetypes of the Hag, the Witch, the Evil Sorceress, the Seductress, the Black Madonna, the Prostitute and the Raging Bitch!
An archetype is defined as a form of consciousness that is understood as a more collective aspect of awareness. Often these darker feminine archetypal forms include an awareness of the intuitive side of the feminine as well – that was feared and often attacked in the past –for example, witches were burned for their deeper wisdom. Or Christian religions tried to blame Eve for the first Sin in seducing Adam, and sexuality was denigrated as a negative desire – and the Prostitute was born. Or Islamic religions hid women’s faces and bodies, because men could not be blamed for their sexual desire to want women, so women have to hide their sensual feminine nature. The Hag is seen as old, harshly critical and cranky, split off from the power of her deeper wisdom, no longer being valued.
Are you more connected to the negativity of your mother, then your undying love for her? Do you resent her or feel guilty all the time about her? Do you try to not to be hurt by her critical comments about you – or do you just plain try to avoid her? Maybe you’ve moved to another city or country, to unconsciously place a geographic distance away from her?
These are some of the components of the Negative Mother that you may wonder, how can you change this – because you can’t change your mother! The Negative or Dark Mother can evolve, with awareness and a bit of work into a more satisfying and deeply fulfilling relationship, You can learn how to transmute your needs to the Divine Mother and the Earth Mother. These two archetypes, spiritual or more earthly entities, have a great bountiful abundance of love and gifts to offer that can heal you and re-organize how you experience yourself and create your chosen reality. If you are open to changing yourself, the possibilities of deeper connections with the positive, healing forms of Mothers are endless.
The art of ‘Deep Resilience’ is knowing what you can do and what you need to do on a daily basis to hold your own stability and grounded balance. It allows you to flourish and thrive in today’s challenging environment. It enables you to gracefully spring back from anything! It truly is harder to feel calm and grounded these days. This is because the ground is actually losing its own magnetic charge! This is due to the toxicity of electromagnetic pollution through cell phone and internet tower frequency waves.
Have you noticed an unusual intensity surrounding you these days? Do you feel more anxious, overwhelmed and tired a lot of them time? Find it difficult to hold your focus or keep on top of your ever lengthening to do lists? Well you aren’t the only one. Our world is changing faster than most of us can keep up with. Deep Resilience is a way of responding to these changes by changing how we think and live. Deep Resilience is how we can bounce back quickly, with change from a deeper place of grounded stability. Thriving is about going beyond just surviving. We are living in a time of great chaos and it can feel like you are going crazy, just trying to keep up with a sane pace in life. Finding balance in this whirlwind of unknown futures is an art!
The earth, Gaia, is an alive, breathing organism. She is currently going through incredible changes. Physical shifts from the north to south pole axis, to earthquakes, new volcano rumblings, hurricanes and incredible weather changes. The ice cap poles are melting and our sense of stability and reality is changing faster than we know how to deal with. Gaia is awakening into a new level of awareness and she is calling all of us to move with her. Continue reading →
‘Spirit Woman’, Oil Pastel Drawing by Ingrid Cryns
What is the difference between healing your soul and psychotherapy work? And why would you want to heal your soul at all? Well, soul healing is about working with a broader understanding that embraces the world of spirit and how energy moves through your body and soul. It is also about the integration of your body, spirit & mind consciousness along with a possibly more collective awareness that can transcend a personal sense of self.
Psycho-therapy actually originated as a form of healing (therapy) with the breath of spirit or soul (psyche). Today it is a practice with many different theories that ultimately aims at bringing greater well-being to the individual. It can heal dysfunctional past family relationships, traumatic experiences or help to gain greater confidence or vitality for living. Psychotherapy is also often about talking to someone in a safe space, expressing emotions with someone who can truly see you and reflect back to you a deeper and more authentic truth of who you truly are. Continue reading →
Have you been in talk therapy for several years, going over the same stories over and over again and not feeling like you are really changing? You might be ready for a deeper level of healing that goes beyond mind psychotherapy or solo consciousness work. When the body, energy and the magical world of spiritual healing is included, dramatic shifts in reality and core healing can truly occur.
Talk therapy can be very helpful in allowing you to understand yourself and to integrate what is unconscious, conscious. The more we can be aware of what might be our hidden motives or deep wounds underneath a surface emotion or even a somatized body symptom, the more we are likely to be able to address the core of an issue to heal it permanently.