Intimate Relationship as a Spiritual Path

Intimate Relationship as a Spiritual Path

If you could consider a committed, intimate relationship as a Spiritual Path, you may find a new possibility for healing and joy that can bring a greater truth, vitality, and aliveness to your relationship.  For many people, an intimate relationship is about getting their needs met, feeling safe and loved by another.  This can often be a complicated arrangement that creates issues of misattunement with each other, such as feeling ignored, misunderstood, forgotten, criticized, shamed, betrayed, hurt, etc. Instead, consider viewing an intimate relationship as being a form of a spiritual quest or path for learning how to connect more deeply within yourself.

Falling in Love

In the first bloom of a romantic connection, you fall in love and it feels ecstatic!  This falling sensation is one of letting go of control (with little fear), of surrendering to a sense of yourself that is beyond you. It is akin to the ecstatic feeling of spiritual enlightenment.  As Marianne Williamson puts it;

“From a spiritual perspective, the original high of a romantic connection is thrilling …. For in a quick moment, a gift from the gods, we are likely to suspend our judgment of the other, not because we are temporarily insane, but because we are temporarily sane. We are having what you might call a mini-enlightenment experience. Enlightenment is not unreal; enlightenment—or pure love—is all that is real. Enlightenment is when we see not as through a glass darkly, but truly face-to-face.”  – Marianne Williamson

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The Top 3 Tips of Resilient Loving Relationships

Loving CoupleHow do your grow your intimate love relationship to be more resilient to the many shifts, changes or unexpected traumas that life offers us?  Here are the top 3 tips to hold within your hearts so that you can find more love for each other, as you may find yourselves possibly drifting apart;
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Growing Your Love for your Inner Self: Part 3 of 3

body psychotherapist TorontoThe third of a 3 part series of growing your love for your inner self, see also 9 Ways to Nurture Love for Yourself: Part 1, and Cultivating Your Self-Love: Part 2. This blog is about some simple and practical exercises that can help you to explore what is in your heart and to move the energy through to open it up and allow your own love to expand and grow within;

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Cultivating your Self-Love: Part 2 of 3

self loveContinuing from 9 Ways to Nurture Love for Yourself: Part 1, here are a more few ideas that can help you to cultivate your self-love;

4. Commit to Removing the Blocks to Receiving Love:

The nature of love is often about how it gets wounded. A wounded heart can also be a heart that slowly becomes blocked in its ability to receive love. Blocks to the heart, also can block receiving a great vitality and aliveness in how you experience life! And, a blocked heart can create a wall in relationships with friends, work or life in general that reduces your capacity to fully be all that you might desire or dream of. Many people with a wound in their heart will give up in hopelessness or despair that it will never change. But, there is always a choice. You can choose to make a commitment to exploring what might be possible to open up your heart again. What books are there that you can discover that talks about healing a broken heart? What online resources can you find that can open up a new doorway to how to mend the gaping hole of loss in your heart? What professionals can you connect with that can carefully guide you in a safe way to listen to what your heart needs to repair itself? There are many paths and choices to heal the heart. Make a commitment today to begin to choose one of them.

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9 Ways to Nurture Love Within Yourself: Part 1 of 3

nurturing love for yourselfLove is often what we want from others; to feel desired, wanted, without judgment, unconditionally. The thing is, to get that love, it absolutely starts with how much you love and want yourself!  If you don’t love yourself first, you cannot attract anything less than what you have within.  When you can cultivate and develop the love you have for all of you, inside your own heart, you will resonate that quality of love and like a magnet, attract the same from others.  In this 3 part series, we’ll explore 9 ways to nurture love within yourself. Here are 3 techniques to help you amplify and begin to nurture what is in your heart and what you might need to do to grow your own love for yourself.

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