4. Commit to Removing the Blocks to Receiving Love:
The nature of love is often about how it gets wounded. A wounded heart can also be a heart that slowly becomes blocked in its ability to receive love. Blocks to the heart, also can block receiving a great vitality and aliveness in how you experience life! And, a blocked heart can create a wall in relationships with friends, work or life in general that reduces your capacity to fully be all that you might desire or dream of. Many people with a wound in their heart will give up in hopelessness or despair that it will never change. But, there is always a choice. You can choose to make a commitment to exploring what might be possible to open up your heart again. What books are there that you can discover that talks about healing a broken heart? What online resources can you find that can open up a new doorway to how to mend the gaping hole of loss in your heart? What professionals can you connect with that can carefully guide you in a safe way to listen to what your heart needs to repair itself? There are many paths and choices to heal the heart. Make a commitment today to begin to choose one of them.
This is Part 2 of a 2 series blog on Facing my Fears Alone in the Wilderness; Click here for Part 1.
Reflecting over those 2 days alone, I felt a beginning peace and contentedness grow within. Although my journey to get there was fraught with all sorts of mistakes, fumbles, wrong paths taken, I eventually did find my way to a new ‘home’ base. I was persistent, I never gave up, and I faced the unknown with ‘fearlessness’. Essentially, I felt lots of fear, yet I kept on going, regardless.
Initially in my journey to find myself, who I am, or why I even exist, I often went up north to Algonquin Park, or the Frost Centre area (Haliburton, Dorset, Minden in Ontario) and did many solo trips. I consciously did this to meet my great fear of being ALONE.
On my very first trip, I was so bold, naive and rash that I didn’t even know how to carry the canoe all by myself. I found myself at the first portage and suddenly realized how I forgot to figure this out and learn it before I left. After my initial panic & despair, I relaxed a little, slowed down, took some deep breaths and looked carefully at the canoe. I then lifted it up at one end, jimmied myself up to the middle underneath it, put it on top of my head, turned around until I was facing out and then lifted it up onto my shoulders. I did it! Then I started walking on the portage. Except that I forgot to check the map and somehow there was a fork in the road – AND I TOOK THE WRONG FORK!
Although we appear to be living in a crazy time of great change which is often perceived as fearful or detrimental, you can also learn how to navigate through change with a positive attitude. A crisis can also be an opportunity to change or shift something into a better or healthier way of being. It is a choice to learn how to take a challenging or even an intense, crazy making experience, into an auspicious deep, soul learning moment.
The way to heal a betrayal experience is to first give yourself permission to fully feel your rage. Take the time to physically express it through your body with strong physical movement of your arms or legs or both. Swinging a bat against a bed, swinging a stick against a concrete wall or a large tree in a forest, kicking a punching bag or stomping your feet up and down on the earth are all healthy ways to move the energy of anger through your body. And, the more you can express your rage with your voice as well, such as through screaming or growling, the better as it will help move the energy through your body and out of your system.
I met a woman on the weekend and I was moved by how angry and intense she sounded. I listened to her story until I saw why her soul was expressing its outrage. She had been following her dream and after 4 years, now she is almost bankrupt. She had experienced deception and felt deeply betrayed, and I saw how her heart was achingly breaking. She had dreamed of becoming a farmer with no background or experience in it. She cashed out her city life and moved into the rural country to make a go of it. In the end, she realized how completely unsupported the farmers are by the government and how many of them, including herself, are working so, so hard and are still losing money. Many of them are living on the poverty line.
Starting a new year, we all want to feel fresh and let go of what might be holding us back. A new year marks a time to rekindle the desire for new beginnings and set new intentions… perhaps with a sacred ritual. The winter solstice of Dec 22 marking the shortest day of the year, also marks a kind of death of a cycle; an ending that sets the stage for a rebirth, or where seeds can be planted to grow into new directions.
I like to set an intention for my own personal goals and inspirations at these magical times of year when the solstice or equinox marks a shift in the earth energies. Although it is more powerful to do this on the energetic surge of the exact day and times of these calendar dates, a day before or after also holds the energy well too. And, when you miss that, do this whenever it feels right for you. It is always a powerful way of marking and holding a new intention or direction. It helps significantly to change an old habit if you can mark a new positive intention in a simple ritual. I find myself doing these a few times a year. Here is what I like to do and I thought it might be inspiring for some of you to try as well:
The Christmas Holidays are a time focused on finding the time to buy gifts, arranging the dates of how to get together for family meals and taking some down time to relax. For many of us, taking in and actually receiving the gift of love can sometimes get lost in the busy-ness of the season. Here are the top 3 ways that you can consciously focus on to expand your capacity to receive love each day. This is my holiday gift to you; to offer you a growing heart vocabulary to receive the many facets of love, a day;
Wondering where the light is? The Dark Soul is the other side of life that we all want to avoid, distract, dissociate from, numb out or just plain ignore. And here is where you will find the richer parts of you. Yes, sometimes it is a bit of a confusing, muddy, sticky and stinky swamp in there! Or maybe there is a really painful bit of deep grief or scary abandonment feelings, or held back, repressed anger, or please don’t go there, a deep well of never ending shame!
The wholeness of your being is in embracing both the dark and light aspects of yourself. Most of us want to only think of ourselves in a positive light; where we are only successful, kind, generous, with great relationships and good health. But the reality of it is a much more complex picture. Our personality has an Ego that wants to only see things that are flattering and deny things that are shameful or painful. The truth is that when we can make friends with our dark side, or our shadow self as Carl Jung would call it, we paradoxically become more whole in our being, and more whole in our soul!
Soul River of Life Pencil Crayon Drawing by Ingrid Cryns
To live ‘wisely’ in these times, it is important to develop tools that help to ground and centre you for the many dramatic shifts that are occurring around us on a variety of levels – including emotional/spiritual/energetic as well as physical illnesses. To be ‘Resilient’ to these changes, it requires a body and mind to be strongly grounded in this reality while remaining open & flexible to be able to quickly shift or change as required. Resiliency work is about building up your healing systems and healing team to assist you through difficult times on many different levels. In this 2 part blog series, I will give you 15 tools to help you navigate these crazy times.
Below is what represents the breadth and depth of holistic and healing modalities that I have personally explored and continue to highly recommend. I often still use many of them myself at different times on my own soul work journey. Some of these methods are also regularly included in my webinars, presentations, workshops or group retreats. Here are the first 7 tools to support your soul to grow with courage and clarity;
To begin with, please start with signing up for my Newsletter on the right side bar. This will not only keep you in touch with many current trends in how to live more wisely, but you will receive a 7 page download of a very comprehensive collection of 15 other tips to help manage overwhelm and high anxiety called; Calming Chaos: 15 Soul Secrets for Holding Balance in These Crazy Times. (If you are already on my email list and do not have this download, just send me an email and I will send it to you then).
Donna Eden’s Energy medicine – is a really great body of work that helps to balance the right and left sides of your body and energy system as well as keep you in a good daily balance and increase resiliency. I highly recommend to learn how to do the 5 – 10 minute daily routine
YOGA, YOGA, YOGA – I can’t say enough about the importance of stretching and strengthening the body slowly and carefully through the various forms of yoga. My personal favourites are Moshka & Hatha forms, but there are many others that are also very good
Tong Ren – is a fascinating long distance healing method
I can support you to find ways to get in touch with your un-conscious or shadow self through symbols and dream work interpretation or unique emotional art drawings. And I can help you to heal the pain of your deeper soul wounds that will create a greater congruency of your body and mind through body psychotherapy. Click on the green contact tab below to the right and let’s begin to heal your unique soul story together!