Awakening to mankind’s responsibility to heal the inner wound of our collective wounded masculine, also heals the wounded relationship with the feminine. As we all learn how to relate differently in a way that is more inclusive, this paradoxically allows more individuality to co-exist. With a commitment to our personal growth, together we are co-creating the new emerging masculine.
Like the need for bio-diversity to strengthen the resilience of inter-dependent micro systems on the planet, our collective need to learn how to operate in a way that includes an ability to respond and support all of our needs – men, women, children, elders, plants, animals, water and more! We can ultimately also shift our profound and primary relationship with the Earth.
Jungian Analyst and Author, Robert Bly, has stated in his work long ago that the archetypal image of the powerful, old masculine, King is dead – in our collective psyche! An archetype is a way of describing our universal need of a particular aspect of within our psychological development of how we think, feel and behave. The King archetype is one of power, strength and how to fight for our integrity and needs.
Sadly, for many of us, the positive King archetype was killed off in our early childhood from abandonment or abuse, dysfunctional or distorted men and narcissistic to psychopathic fathers. Our idea of what a strong powerful father should be, is actually one that is deeply wounded, weak or insecure, compensating in some form for a deep disconnection from within our psyches. The old masculine lacks a healthy integration with the feminine, an intuitive nature, an inclusive and supportive relationship with others and a way of being that is in harmonious balance with how we live together on this Earth.
In celebration of Father’s Day this month as well as the sun energy of Summer Solstice yesterday, I have been thinking about the men in my life. It is a time to honour the healthy masculine in all of us. I have begun to notice a shift in the world and have caught glimpses of a new masculine emerging and growing amongst us.
For years, I have seen many distorted forms of the masculine. One form is through dysfunctional corporation structures that continue to operate in an increasing chaos that doesn’t make a lot of sense any more. Organizations like FIFA world soccer is falling apart due to the financial greed of its leaders, or the Canadian Armed Forces, who are struggling with its internal sexual discrimination, harassment or abuse issues.
I’ve heard many stories in the news or from my clients of corporate organizations, school boards and police forces full of corruption, mismanagement or abuse within its power structures. The financial power structures of many countries seem to be falling apart as well. Let alone, all the men who have emotionally or physically abused their children, who are mentally ill-at-ease, or who have abandoned or neglected their spouses or kids. It’s really a mess out there and much of it is based on a controlling, competitive, male dominated power or hierarchical structure that is supposed to support its individual members, but actually doesn’t seem to at all.
Not only is the masculine aspect in men only, it exists as well in the inner psyche of women too. Our left brain and right side of the body holds our masculine qualities. These qualities can appear in our psyche as distinct aspects such as:
Transforming the Negative Mother into the Divine and Earth Mothers heals not only our inner world, but also heals the planet at the same time! When you can learn and integrate the many positive Mother archetypes through a new bonding relationship with a therapist, you can begin to develop fresh neural network pathways of consistent, loving connections. As you learn how to grow a consistent loving connection within yourself, you develop a capacity to unconditionally love yourself – no matter what happens. This is what slowly heals and transforms the negative mother within. It also changes how you will relate to others and as we all heal and transform our primary relationship with our inner mothers, the earth’s balance will also change and heal.
Practicing meditative prayers to more spiritual, positive mother archetypes can also begin to replace the negative mother imprint within you.
Positive Mother Archetypes, are the loving nurturer, the caregiver, the wise grandmother, or the mother martyr. They are found also in the positive side of Isis from Egypt, the Madonna , Mother Mary of Christianity, Kwan Yin from China, Lakshmi from China, and of course, Mother Earth or Gaia, as some call her.
Healing a negative mother wound inside of you is inter-related to the healing that our entire planet needs! Our earth is calling us now, to come back and listen to her needs; which is also all of our needs, collectively. Our survival is deeply inter-connected as a species to Her. She is out of balance and is shifting with enormous physical changes and more erratic weather patterns. She is asking us to change ourselves in how we relate to her. Are we able to change and respond in time as a collective community?
In the western world, many women were told by Dr Spock in the 60’s to not pick up their child when s/he was crying. This created a society of adults who learned to shut down their feelings and not respond with love to their own personal needs. We have evolved collectively as a culture with schizoid tendencies to ignore the body’s needs and feelings and to be highly narcissistic. Many of us have learned to not respond in true empathy to another’s needs. Large corporations, in fact, essentially operate with this model and it appears that many country governments do as well!
The Negative Mother archetype is represented in our culture often as the archetypes of the Hag, the Witch, the Evil Sorceress, the Seductress, the Black Madonna, the Prostitute and the Raging Bitch!
An archetype is defined as a form of consciousness that is understood as a more collective aspect of awareness. Often these darker feminine archetypal forms include an awareness of the intuitive side of the feminine as well – that was feared and often attacked in the past –for example, witches were burned for their deeper wisdom. Or Christian religions tried to blame Eve for the first Sin in seducing Adam, and sexuality was denigrated as a negative desire – and the Prostitute was born. Or Islamic religions hid women’s faces and bodies, because men could not be blamed for their sexual desire to want women, so women have to hide their sensual feminine nature. The Hag is seen as old, harshly critical and cranky, split off from the power of her deeper wisdom, no longer being valued.
The owl is often thought of as a wise, instinctual being. With the ability to see well in the night, the owl is frequently associated with the ability to see beyond illusion to the true reality. The owl can see and hear what is hidden to most people. When you open yourself up to the wisdom of the wise owl, you become more in tune with your intuitive nature. This makes you more able to make better decisions with greater discernment. Continue reading →
The earth, Gaia, is an alive, breathing organism. She is currently going through incredible changes. Physical shifts from the north to south pole axis, to earthquakes, new volcano rumblings, hurricanes and incredible weather changes. The ice cap poles are melting and our sense of stability and reality is changing faster than we know how to deal with. Gaia is awakening into a new level of awareness and she is calling all of us to move with her. Continue reading →
How do your grow your intimate love relationship to be more resilient to the many shifts, changes or unexpected traumas that life offers us? Here are the top 3 tips to hold within your hearts so that you can find more love for each other, as you may find yourselves possibly drifting apart; Continue reading →
Have you been in talk therapy for several years, going over the same stories over and over again and not feeling like you are really changing? You might be ready for a deeper level of healing that goes beyond mind psychotherapy or solo consciousness work. When the body, energy and the magical world of spiritual healing is included, dramatic shifts in reality and core healing can truly occur.
Talk therapy can be very helpful in allowing you to understand yourself and to integrate what is unconscious, conscious. The more we can be aware of what might be our hidden motives or deep wounds underneath a surface emotion or even a somatized body symptom, the more we are likely to be able to address the core of an issue to heal it permanently.